Over my years of exploring fetishes in SL, I have noticed that there are many people who are quite confused regarding what a Dominant and what a submissive is; what it’s like to be a Dominant or a submissive. While I am fully aware of the abundance of informative and educational resources on all things related to BDSM and D/s, I will also try to offer my own blog as an additional resource that might hopefully help people gain greater satisfaction from their involvement in D/s. So, without further ado, I republish “The Submissive’s Creed”, a work written by an unknown author, which is, however, of great importance in understanding the true role of a submissive. Because this post is basically a repost of someone else’s work without any significant additions on my behalf, I am not adding my signature in the end.
The Submissive’s Creed
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits and experience. I realise that failing to do so will not only prevent my Dominant and I from having the best experience possible, but it can also lead to physical and emotional harm.
I will try not to manipulate my Dominant. I will not push to make a scene go the way I feel it should. In other words, I will not Top from the bottom.
I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not comfortable with and on expanding my limits. I will continue to grow as a submissive and as a human being.
I will accept the responsibility for discovering what pleases my Dominant and will do my best to fulfil Their wishes and desires.
I will not allow myself to be harmed or abused. I know that being a submissive does not mean being a doormat.
I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives. I will share my knowledge and experience with others in the hope that they will learn and benefit from where I have been. I will take time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path.
I will be responsive to my Dominant. I will not try to hide what my mind and both are feeling so that I may assist Them in their responsibilities as my Authority. I know Dominants are not telepaths and I will not expect my Dominant to know thoughts or feelings which I do not share.
I will accept in the responsibility of a scene or relationship gone bad. I will not place total blame on my Dominant when it is not warranted simply because They are the Dominant. I realise things may not work out as they should at time and will try my best to put it behind me and move on.
I will give my submission only to those who can responsibly accept it and desire to receive it. I will not place anyone in the position of Dominating me non-consensually, nor will I give my respect to someone who has not earned it.
I will be obedient to my Dominant even if I disagree with what They are requesting. I realise They have my best interests at heart and often know better than I what I need in a particular situation.
I know that my actions reflect upon my Dominant, and will do my best to help others to see Them in a positive way. I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Dominant.
Above all, I will wear my title of submissive with honour. I will never cause others to think that being submissive means to be weak or sub-human. I will take pride in who I am and will never show myself in a negative way.
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