Are women part of the rape culture?

The title is indeed shocking, as rape is a crime that is mostly committed against women, but the appalling answer is a resounding yes. There are women out there who are part of the rape culture and do whatever they can to proliferate it. They choose to either turn a blind eye to sexual discrimination and gender-based violence against women or outright condone and support it. Their main arguments for their behaviour are (a) “victims whine too much”, (b) “seeking support for such causes is bullying (sic)”, (c) “it has not happened to me, so it does not concern me”, (d) “protesting against rape is misandry“.

These four “arguments” are what their long-winded tirades really boil down to. One of these “women”‘s main point of contention was, of course, “One Billion Rising”; they seem to have a problem with anti-rape campaigns – a problem they share with a significant proportion of “men”. Previously, I had blogged about the disputes around One Billion Rising, but it seems like I have to add a few words about these “women” who, instead of doing what they can to help other women (who could be their daughters, nieces, students at school etc.) live in a better world, prefer to side with those who view women as inferior beings.

I’m going to present some of the “arguments” that were put on offer by a certain “woman” and I will analyse them one by one – mind you, all of these “arguments” could very easily have come from a misogynist “men’s rights” group or from supporters of Rehtaeh Parsons’ rapists. While some may argue that offering exposure to these “arguments” might advertise them, I beg to differ; the likes of do the same to all sorts of hoaxes and urban legends – they take apart the often propagandistic bullcrap that goes around the internet like wildfire and expose the inaccuracies, fallacies and even lies and – more often than not – agendas.

“Argument” 1:

Second Life is our escape, it is not a place for campaigns.

Interesting “point”, but, if you wanted a 3D chat/dress-up/pixelsex “world”, you could try IMVU instead. Furthermore, Linden Lab itself, the company that develops and runs Second Life actively supports many campaigns, including campaigns against cancer; One Billion Rising was one of them.

“Argument” 2:

I’m a paying customer of SL, why are you demanding that I support your cause?

Your status as a paying customer of SL has nothing to do with any campaign or cause. Last time I checked, no one “demanded” that you support any campaign or cause – no one shoved Relay For Life or One Billion Rising or any other campaign down your throat and “demanded” that you support and be part of it. The campaigns and causes are presented. People pay for the sims to be rented and set up (in fact, they may be paying a lot more money to Linden Lab than you, if we choose to speak in terms of money) and promote their campaigns and causes. Whether you support them or not is your choice alone.

“Argument” 3:

You are forcing us paying customers of SL to support your cause!

This is the most paranoid and idiotic extension of “argument” 2 that I’ve seen so far. While we’re still speaking about Second Life, this is the one environment where you can never claim that you are “forced” to do something. In Second Life, you go to certain places because you want to. You pay your L$ because you choose and want to. Last time I checked (and to entertain your paranoid and insane claim), no campaigner for One Billion Rising installed a backdoor on your computer, taking control of it, installing RLV on it and replacing other viewers with it, attaching some sort of “super sekrit pre-programmed RLV relay” that could teleport you to the One Billion Rising sims and then magically take L$ out of your account and change what your avatar says into anti-rape messages. Seriously, that’s how ridiculous “argument” 3 is.

“Argument” 4:

Seeking attention for causes is bullying.

*FACEPALM* – Are you that stupid? Are you on drugs or something? Or do you think we’re stupid? Again, no one forces you to support any cause. Let me type it again, a bit more slowly this time, and in cruise control caps: NO. ONE. FORCES. YOU. TO. SUPPORT. ANY. CAUSE. Get it? Is that so hard to understand? By the way, why do you feel “bullied” when people promote campaigns against rape, against the violence inflicted upon other women, against sexual discrimination? These campaigns aim to make it safer for you, your daughters (if you have any), your female friends (if you have any, which I highly doubt) and colleagues, your female relatives to freely go wherever they please, without the fear that some dickhead out there will abuse them. What do you find so threatening about it? Where exactly is the bullying in this? To associate anti-rape campaigns with bullying is Insane Troll Logic and the only other persons I’ve seen make this association were hard-line pro-rape “men” (incidentally, one of these “men” is a buddy of yours, but I’ll leave this one aside for now). Also, to associate anti-rape campaigns with bullying means you are entirely clueless w.r.t. the nature of bullying. And, by the way, go tell the Red Cross or UNICEF that they are “bullying” people to support their causes. I doubt that’d fly well with anyone (except with you and your misanthropic, sociopathic friends).

“Argument” 5:

I’m against all violence, why do I have to support a cause that fights violence against women?

If only I had a penny for every time I heard the “I’m against all violence” hypocritical bullshit… The “against all violence” brush is so broad that it can be used to present anything as violence (as long as it fits the needs of the one using this brush): we’ve seen peaceful protests being labelled as “violence” by pro-government sources who then went to excuse and justify really violent suppression of said peaceful protests by SWAT teams armed to the teeth (and this suppression also included such illegal means as preemptive detention and torture while in custody). Fact is, that none of the people who go out and (often very loudly) claim to be “against all violence” condemns violence against the less privileged members of our societies: immigrants, unemployed people, women, children. NONE. I really have yet to see an “against all violence” person protest police torture, rape, child abuse, racist violence. In fact, I’ve seen many “against all violence” people say that arresting members of violent nazi gangs would be “undemocratic”.

“Argument” 6:

In SL, you have Gor, BDSM, D/s, even rape fantasies – it’s hypocritical to host events and campaigns against rape.

First off: to imply any association between D/s and rape only shows you really don’t know what you’re talking about. Same goes for implying that D/s and BDSM are one and the same. But let me tell you that your “argument” can be very easily rephrased, by replacing only one letter: “In RL, you have Gor, BDSM, D/s, even rape fantasies – it’s hypocritical to host events and campaigns against rape.” There. Try telling this to anyone. But, to treat you with a lot more respect than your points deserve, let me tell you that the fact that something bad exists doesn’t make it hypocritical to protest it. Perhaps your “higher intellectual powers” are so high that this extremely simple fact eludes your brain, but I guess I ought to remind you anyway. Or perhaps you’re just a far-right wingnut. 🙂

“Argument” 7:

“I don’t feel oppressed and do not feel obligated to represent myself as oppressed because some percentage of my gender is or feels oppressed” ; “why should I have any sympathy for rape victims? It hasn’t happened to me!” ; “the fact that men get paid more than women of the same qualifications for the same job is not my problem.”

So, injustice against others shouldn’t concern us at all, especially if we ourselves haven’t been wronged (yet). Let me give you what Martin Niemöller had to say about this attitude of yours…

First they came for the communists,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a communist.

Then they came for the socialists,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists,

and I didn’t speak out because I wasn’t a trade unionist.

Then they came for me,

and there was no one left to speak for me.

“Argument” 8:

Anti-rape campaigns are for feminazis and misandric women.

I’m not even going to dignify that with a response. I think anyone can see how fucked up you are. And really, this “argument” comes straight from the pamphlets of misogynist, pro-rape groups run by certain “men”. By the way, why is it that you have – so far – failed to tell men to learn to keep their penises in their pants and that “no” means “no”?

To sum it up: You are not coming across as an intelligent, down-to-earth, “rational” woman as you think you are. No. You are coming across as a deeply antisocial person who thinks compassion, empathy, solidarity and sympathy are “evil”; in fact, you are utterly delusional and giving credence to the rape culture. In fact, you’re so steeped in the rape culture, that it is your identity – and yes, you are pro-rape, so don’t feel “insulted” and “abused” when we’re Captain Obvious about it.

It is “women” like you who raise boys to think girls and women are fair game to be raped.

It is “women” like you who, when a woman is raped, whisper (or even say it loudly) that “the slut was asking for it.”

It is “women” like you who raised the rapists of Audrie Pott and Rehtaeh Parsons (see the linked articles below, you vomit-inducing piece of trash).

It is “women” like you who, instead of demanding justice for the two teenaged girls, opted to look the other way when these girls were put through the shredder each day by their peers and driven to suicide.

It is “women” like you who texted these rape victims with “you’re such a slut” SMS messages.

Finally, it is “women” like you who murdered these two girls.

I’m going to close this post with a quote by Slavoj Žižek:

“The true ethical test is not only the readiness to save the victims, but also – even more, perhaps – the ruthless dedication to annihilating those who made them victims.”

Now go bitch, cry, moan and whine to your pro-rape buddies about how “pro-violence” I am.


Mona (formerly slutrix)


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3 thoughts on “Are women part of the rape culture?

  1. I really enjoyed your post and agree with your arguments. it is stupid that we have to argue with “women” about a cause or topic that concerns them too. In my opinion it is women are women’s biggest enemies-unfortunately we seem to have so many “petty” issues in us, that we’d rather discredit and go for the “eyes” than to agree with one another.
    I have read the …then they came for me before and there was no one left to speak for me… before and I liked it then and still do now.
    However, the quote by Slavoj Žižek is a tad too radical for me.
    One other thing your wordpress wall theme (black) is very stylish, but my eyes were freaked out and I was seeing glaring white lines, no criticism, just a personal discomfort, makes it very hard to read!

    1. Hello DoRo. I’m sorry for taking so long to respond.

      Indeed, the proliferation of the rape culture is aided by many women who, out of pettiness, racism, or a twisted form of the Stockholm Syndrome or, even worse, out of their desire to make sure that their sons will not be “bossed around” by their wives that will “invade their lives to steal the boy from its mum” (for that is exactly what it all boils down to, w.r.t. the fact that many women raise their sons on misogynistic values that – disturbingly – they inject in them), raise their offspring with the tenets of the rape culture, such as the notion that rape victims at least in part were “asking for it”.

      As for Žižek’s quote, it is not radical at all: it is what justice is based on. There can be no leniency towards rapists or towards those who impoverish millions of people in order to make a handful of over-privileged people richer and more powerful.

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